kimdebron.com

This article is written by me – Kim Debron – it is owned by me. If you copy it, please give the credit to me, otherwise you are committing an act of plagiarism – you are stealing my work.

Kinktionary

A list of common terms and words used.

BDSM: a term made from 3 pairs of words – Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & submission and Sadism & Masochism.

 

Bondage: Being restrained in some way – rope, chain, scarves, plastic wrap, etc

 

Discipline: Punishment of some kind – spanking, caning, corner time, lines etc.

 

Dom/Dominant: One who enjoys being in control and having a measure of power over another person. Often a person who has made a lifestyle choice rather than a role play.

Master: Non-gender specific – used as a title to show respect to someone who has mastered his or her craft, it can be bestowed upon someone by the Community. It can also be used within a relationship as a title for the dominant used by the submissive or slave.

 

Sub/Submissive: One who willingly and consensually gives up some control to another person. Often a person who has made a lifestyle choice rather than a role play.

 

Slave: One who has given up all control to another person – a slave makes one choice - just once, to be a slave.

 

Sadism: Feeling of enjoyment from giving pain

 

Masochism: Feeling of enjoyment from receiving pain.

 

Top: A term sometimes used to describe a person who is playing the role of Dominant for an agreed time frame or get together – a casual player rather than someone who has made a lifestyle choice.

 

Bottom: A term sometimes used to describe a person who is playing the role of submissive for an agreed time frame or get together – a casual player rather than someone who has made a lifestyle choice

 

Switch: A person who alternates between Dominant and submissive.

 

Munch: A gathering of people in a normal (vanilla) every day setting, usually a restaurant or café, to share a meal and get to know others. A good first place to start out if you are new. Casual clothes, not a place for play or any kind of Fetish interactions.

 

Play: The physical act of S&M interaction between a Dominant and a submissive – eg flogging. Play can sometimes be called “scening”

 

Toys: Implements used in a play session or scene – eg flogger, paddle, cane, knife, rope.

 

Safe Word: A word which will stop all play activity – this is very important to ensure the safety and wellbeing of the submissive – RED is the most common word used. Failure to honour a safe word is seen as serious misconduct.

 

Traffic Lights: In the same way a safe word is used, many people use traffic light colours to indicate their level of comfort during a play session:-

Green – I’m okay, I like it.

Orange/Yellow – I’m okay but this is about as hard as I want to go

Red – STOP NOW!

 

SSC (safe, sane and consensual): A term used to describe the basic principles of responsibilities of all parties involved – Everything should be based on safe, sane and consenting behaviour of all involved.

 

RACK: (risk aware consensual kink) A term used to describe the individual responsibilities of the parties involved  - RACK concentrates more on awareness and informed consent, rather than accepted safe practices.

 

Hard Limit: Something that you will not do, and do not want to ever do in a play session or in a D/s relationship.

 

Vanilla: A term which refers to “normal” non kinky people, relationships and activities.

 

DM: (Dungeon Monitor) – a well respected, experienced person who watches all public play and monitors the activities for safety – this person will stop an activity if he or she sees it as unsafe/dangerous.

 

Club Etiquette: NO means NO, Do not touch other people’s property – which means not only toys, clothes, etc but also human property. Do not interrupt or try to join in a play session. Remember that a BDSM club is NOT a swingers club.

 

 © kim debron 2011

 

 

This site was designed with the
.com
website builder. Create your website today.
Start Now